Minty Breath in a Musty Room: On Courage

Parker Palmer wrote The Courage to Teach, a book I cherished. Lately I find myself asking: What does courage mean? And, how can we cultivate a courageous spirit joined with steady, valiant action? Some days, courage feels like releasing a minty breath bubble into a musty room and watching what unfolds. Other days, it edges closer to recklessness—speaking an honest word, slowing down while others are racing ahead, or stepping beyond the familiar. Such moments feel reckless only because we can’t know what will follow, and safety has become an existential commodity. At times, courage feels like drifting through the zeitgeist, brushing against a sharp chemical odor—like mineral spirits—leaving a faint trace of my mind as I slip past. There are many ways to glimpse courage, but true courage must be traced back to its

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How to Stay Joyful Without Feeling Guilty

I wake up in the morning and express gratitude. I feel at peace. My intention for the day is happiness and peace. I say: May I be at peace. May I be happy. Then I think of someone I love and send them an offering of peace and happiness. I usually start with my son and daughter, because their joy fills me with even deeper gratitude. As I practice this, I feel my energy circle grow larger. Sometimes, during this practice, I end by imagining more freedom and abundance in my life. I let myself feel love and well-being flowing effortlessly. Sometimes I picture a bird soaring, and in that moment, I am the bird—already free. When I rise from my cushion, I get dressed and step into the world. My steps are light and

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Acceptance & Aging

So much has happened since I last wrote. Another year has slipped by. I like to think I move like the spirits—outside of time—but the clock still rules the world. In the past year I moved twice, unpacked boxes, started a job, made peace with some things and took a stand on others, climbed mountains, learned to coax fire from a wood stove, painted Dream House, and traveled. I loved and I lost. Like you, I ride this rollercoaster called life, trying to make sense of it all. Through every change, my mornings remain the same. I sit. I breathe deeply. I give thanks. Sometimes I pray. The universe is still my home, I remind myself. The universe is timeless. Lately, I feel as if I’ve stepped into a higher frequency—one where the smallest moments

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Mindfulness and the City

And just like that, I’m back in Madrid launching a business. After a three month retreat in a country cabin in Woodstock, I returned to a city I adore. My departure was ambivalent as I left failed plans and proximity to loved ones. It’s bitter sweet to move to another country in search of work and belonging. New York is my birthplace, but so much has changed. Madrid is loud and sunny. Constant street life, cultural events, good wine and food. It’s quite a change from the quiet calm of the overcast country. No bear and deer outside my window, for example. Now, I’m living in a tall building at the edge of the city. In spite of the hustle and bustle downstairs, I can disappear into the airy lightness of the sky. There are

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On Meditation and Change

Life happens whether we are still or not. We can actively participate in some aspect of the world or stay still. Wisdom comes from both. Sometimes, our life experience is decided for us through illness, trauma or circumstances. Meditation is one way to get acquainted with the wisdom inherent in stillness by choice of our own. The body will resist stillness. Even when we sleep we are restless, but we can train it to settle down. Inside, we will find our breath happens automatically. It’s always there, blowing air through the lungs. Our breathing is completely self-regulating, but we can, if we wish, control the flow. This is interesting, to try to quicken the breath, or hold it and notice the impact on how we feel. The abdomen will rise and fall. We will notice

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Look Around You

“The mind is always seeking zones of safety, and these zones of safety are continuously falling apart. The opposite is when all the walls fall down, the cocoon disappears and we are totally open to whatever happens. That’s what stirs us and inspires us: leaping, being thrown out of the nest, going through the initiation, growing up, stepping into something that’s uncertain and unknown.” Pema Chödrön, The Wisdom of No Escape I’ve been living in a cabin in Woodstock, New York this summer. Here in the forest, it’s been raining nonstop with frequent thunderstorms. There are swarms of gnats, mosquitos, ticks and bees. We have one black bear who forages our garbage at night. Also, two deer and their fawns, one rabbit and a hare. Some days, the humidity exasperates me. I sit on the

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What Mindfulness is Not

Contrary to the fundamental belief that the root of all suffering is fear of death, I think many individuals fear poverty or the loss of love more. In other words, it is possible to fear living, that is– living with the constant threat of helplessness, of not having the means to care for oneself with dignity, or living without love and belonging. Poverty, desperation or loneliness can trigger the desire for death sometimes. Death feels like a liberation, in this sense. I understand this longing for liberation. To be dead and free of all the earthly demands sounds good if the experience on earth is riddled with pain, hunger, fear, lovelessness and suffering. I can sit in meditation and calm thoughts, like thoughts of fear. But, does my practice solve the problem of me getting

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Finding The Way

Today in meditation, I am a shepherd. I open my eyes and remember my name. Raquel signifies ewe, meaning a female sheep. I think I am both: a shepherd and a sheep. What does this mean? In mindfulness meditation, we often get images and thoughts that we can contemplate and apply to a life situation. In this case, I sense I am being tasked to protect and guide a flock to safety. Knowing the value of sheep, this job requires that I am healthy, alert and caring. Sheep are innocent and vulnerable, soft and fluffy. They give warmth and their milk is nourishing. I like to think there is wisdom in grazing a pasture. All of the references of shepherd and sheep come to me in the moments following my meditation and I’m sifting through

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You are my teacher, you are my student

All life and learning is an energy of giving and receiving. We encounter others on our path to exchange this life force. In an instant, we recognize ourselves in the other; a giving reflection of a world we need to see. This is our world that we see, a creation of our thoughts and our state of being. Let’s consider and reflect on this, for a moment. A mindful life becomes our technique. It is a tool and a strategy to size up the present moment without judgement or cloudiness. Simply, seeing. What is it that I am, through you? What is the world, we see? What is it that we are creating together, in this moment? How am I feeling? What sensation, arises as I consider this creation, that is both you and me,

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You are my family

The curious part about going to church when I was younger was when the priest told us to turn to our neighbor and greet them. Sometimes, I’d feel shy if I was standing around a bunch of strangers, but afterwards, I always felt a stronger sense of community. Making eye contact, smiling, and touching a stranger’s hand can feel intimidating but from time to time, I’d notice how others around me would help me relax by making the first move. This, I appreciated tremendously. It was a gift on their part, an offering. They were telling me, It’s okay, I’m safe. In this moment, we are family. Many of us, across the globe, have experienced loss, displacement and other types of radical change. This upheaval can separate us from this safe feeling of being at

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What is the point? From Self to Others

I woke up this morning thinking, “Why?” and “What is the point?” It is not new, this interrogation into the purpose of life. The well known German-Austrian psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl, posits that meaning comes from three sources: 1) loving a person 2) purposeful work/ project 3) surviving adverse conditions with dignity. Each of these things seem to come from both within and outside oneself, similar to Pema Chödrön’s suggestion that we awaken the heart, for ourselves and to benefit others. In the case of Frankl, the third source of meaning, surviving adverse conditions, appears the most self-serving. However, when we survive adversity with dignity, the implication is we are leaving a trace of light for others to see, the trace of how we survive, meaning how we live, in spite of suffering. In the ten

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Beginner’s Mind

Spring cleaning and curiosity. Tree buds thicken. Seeds planted; harvest mind. Less hope, more giving. A playful attitude emerging.

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How We Contribute

Each year we consider best wishes and pathways that lead to happiness. We evaluate the past and heave sadness and regret, for now it becomes clear what overshadows. Another year gone by and we think the future looms… such daring resolution, gleaming before us like a crystal wine glass unsure of itself, half empty or half full. We watch the ball drop, pour a drink, put on the TV, stuff our mouths with fine dining or grapes, coloring our reality– and yet, we find ourselves alone and unsure, especially about how we got here and what does it all mean? There is an illusion in our aloneness and in our solidarity. This is non-duality. How when you really think about it, our entire existence is both/and, a multilayered, relational experience, involving yourself and society, starting

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